Monday, June 3, 2013

What to Wear to Meet a Birthmom

You got the call! An expectant mom (and dad) would like to meet with you! It's the most important "job" interview of your life, so what do you wear?

I googled "what to wear" and there was some good advice and some interesting advice like wear something comfortable or don't wear expensive "dry clean" fabrics because you want to look like you're ready for baby puke. You also don't want to look unrelatable or like you're trying too hard.  Before our big meeting, I bought several outfits, got a manicure and decided the day before that I needed a haircut. I was so nervous I thought I was the one going to puke.

The outfit should reflect who you are, it's the first impression that you make.  What you wear should make you feel confident.  It's not the time to try the latest trend and you definitely don't need to buy something new. I did because I am a spaz. You're likely to be very nervous in the meeting, so a breathable fabric might be a good idea or wear layers. And make sure everything fits well.  The last thing you want is to be sitting with someone for an hour and your pants are a little too tight or your bra strap keeps showing.

I took some cues from Frankie, the TV mom on The Middle. She's a busy mom with good sense of style and cleans up well.  For me, you can't go wrong with a nice pair of pants, a top that shows some personality and sweater.  For the guys, I think slacks and a button up shirt with no tie or jacket is just fine.  The goal is to look put together and casual but not too fancy or too casual, right in the middle -   This is just my two cents, so wear what makes you feel your best.

The Middle

That day I felt like I looked like me -- the mom me.  The hubby told me right before the meeting that I looked great. What were you wearing the day your life changed?

7 comments:

  1. I would say dress in an outfit that is truly you, is comfortable and says that spills (kid messes) wouldn't ruin it or your day. Imagine your meeting her as meeting a friend. If this leads to an adoption, you will be part of one another's lives forever.

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    1. I totally agree, dress in what's you! Being yourself is most important.

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  2. I called ours a job interview on steroids. Lol thank goodness we only had to do one. I admit since it was our first one I didn't dress up as much as I would have probably the second or third time around. My husband wore jeans and a button up. I wore jeans and a nice blouse. Looking back I think why didn't we dress up! But Nathan's birth parents are really laid back so I guess in the end it didn't matter. :)

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    1. I like that. That's certainly what it is. I think you should wear what you feel most comfortable in, obviously the jeans worked!

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  3. It was summer the first time, I wore capris and a cute shirt, my husband wore shorts and a short sleeved polo shirt...we even wore flip flops. It was us and it was hot out. They weren't dressed up either :) The second time we met at the hospital for the first time, it was winter. I wore jeans, shirt with a cardigan and my husband had jeans and a shirt. We had driven from NY to IN so we were gonna be tired, we wanted to be comfy but look nice. K, birth momma had a hospital gown on so I think we were ok! Lol. I guess both worked we have a son from the first and now 2 sons and a daughter from the second :)

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  4. Funny! And, I absolutely went through the same thing. I got a manicure and pedicure and wore a sweater over a modest camisole with slacks, too! Also - lots of deoderant. This is an exciting time and I am thrilled to follow your progress! I love your attitude. Interestingly, my child's birthmother later told me that she had the same worries. She was afraid I was misjudge her. Meeting a birthmother for the first time is such a strange, raw experience. But, I am so thankful I had that experience! Keep up the great posts!

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