What to Wear to Meet a Birthmom

You got the call! An expectant mom (and dad) would like to meet with you! It's the most important "job" interview of your life, so what do you wear?

I googled "what to wear" and there was some good advice and some interesting advice like wear something comfortable or don't wear expensive "dry clean" fabrics because you want to look like you're ready for baby puke. You also don't want to look unrelatable or like you're trying too hard.  Before our big meeting, I bought several outfits, got a manicure and decided the day before that I needed a haircut. I was so nervous I thought I was the one going to puke.

The outfit should reflect who you are, it's the first impression that you make.  What you wear should make you feel confident.  It's not the time to try the latest trend and you definitely don't need to buy something new. I did because I am a spaz. You're likely to be very nervous in the meeting, so a breathable fabric might be a good idea or wear layers. And make sure everything fits well.  The last thing you want is to be sitting with someone for an hour and your pants are a little too tight or your bra strap keeps showing.

I took some cues from Frankie, the TV mom on The Middle. She's a busy mom with good sense of style and cleans up well.  For me, you can't go wrong with a nice pair of pants, a top that shows some personality and sweater.  For the guys, I think slacks and a button up shirt with no tie or jacket is just fine.  The goal is to look put together and casual but not too fancy or too casual, right in the middle -   This is just my two cents, so wear what makes you feel your best.

The Middle

That day I felt like I looked like me -- the mom me.  The hubby told me right before the meeting that I looked great. What were you wearing the day your life changed?

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The Party Rocked!

Our TGIF party was our most successful fundraiser yet! The party was so much fun. Our friends who have been there for us through thick and thin came out; colleagues and new friends stopped by too. Thank you all for having a drink with us and supporting our adoption! We even had quite a few donations from people that couldn't come, but wanted to contribute anyway. Thank you so much! You guys are awesome! Having our friends cheering us on really keeps us going through the wait. We really needed it because waiting sometimes wears us down.

Asking for donations does not come easy to us. It's difficult to ask for help. Many families do fundraisers for adoption (Google "adoption fundraisers"), but I feel self-conscience about appearing to be looking for hand out. We chose to adopt, so ultimately it's our expense. My friends have assured me that I don't appear this way. I have even had some readers email me to let me know that they like the way we are going about fundraising. Whew! That makes me feel better. We may still have a few fundraisers here and there, whenever it feels right and you can always check out the "Fundraising" tab at the top to see what we have going on. We really do appreciate your help.

Donations are great, but it is not our main focus. Building our family is what is most important to us. I am confident when the time comes, we'll find the money. No, we're not planning to rob a bank. I just have faith that things will work out. The party was about raising money, but it was also about asking people to share our story. Word of mouth is a powerful tool and the networking part of the party was just as important as the donations. At the party, we handed out our "touch cards" with our adoption information, shared our profile book and guests talked to us about adoption. You never know, friend of a friend could hear about adoption and think of us. The bottom line is we are ready to start our family and we are doing everything we can to make that happen. If you would like more information about how you can help us spread the word, click the "How You Can Help!" tab at the top.

We're feeling pretty good after the party. We are recharged by your enthusiasm and ready for whatever comes our way next. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

Special thanks to Turtle Bay Bar in NYC for hosting our fundraiser. It was so awesome of them to have this party for us. Erin at Turtle Bay rocks!

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